Archive for December 22nd, 2008

Really irritated.

Nothing ever goes off without a hitch when it comes to my inlaws. 

We made our annual Christmastime pilgrimage to the inlaws this past weekend, and true to form my mother-in-law bestowed upon us all manner of stuff that we don’t need, thankfully some of which included gift receipts.  So there will be a day in the near future when I trek to the mall to return said gifts and receive the cash for use elsewhere.  Nothing too terrible, and certainly manageable, save for one gift in particular that my inlaws gave to Spawn. 

Now, I’m pretty blasé about most things in the toy aisle, and there’s not too much that I put my foot down about when it comes to Spawn playing with certain toys.  But I do have one or two things that I don’t approve of, and won’t allow Spawn to have. 

Guess what Spawn got. 

My sister-in-law had called my husband earlier in the season to see if this particular gift would be acceptable, and my husband told her no.  So she didn’t get the thing for Spawn.  But either the memo never made the rounds to my mother-in-law, or she doesn’t give a whit about my decision.  I’m opting to believe the former. 

Of course I told Spawn that we were not opening that particular toy and playing with it.  Of course there were tears and recriminations. Of course I was labeled with all sorts of unflattering terms.  Of course my husband did not back me up. 

Of course the whole thing pisses me off. 

And of course guess what Spawn is currently playing with. 

I’m of two minds about this.  On one hand I really feel like I should stick to my guns about it, because Spawn knows my feelings and so does my husband.  These are feelings that have been made abundantly clear in years past; it’s not like it’s a new and arbitrary rule I dreamed up on the spot.  On the other hand, maybe if I don’t make a big deal of it then it won’t be a big deal and we can all move on. 

I certainly don’t think that the development of Spawn’s character hangs in the balance over this one stupid toy.  I would think my mother-in-law would know better, but giving her the benefit of the doubt, it probably never occurred to her that this would be an issue for me.  Because she certainly doesn’t know me all that well, despite the fact that I have been in this family for 21 years.  Which is funny considering that my sister-in-law has known me for the same number of years and hm, she had the good sense to check with my husband to see if I would be okay with it. 

A psychologist would have a field day parsing this, I’m sure. 

So I have a plan, and this is it:  my plan is to nurse my grudge.  Then, once the offending toy has fallen out of favor (and it won’t take long, I’m sure), said toy will disappear. 

Have I mentioned that I am very glad I do not live close to my inlaws? 


— Mox

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